A lot of times in the metaphysical psychobabble world therapists will tell their client they need to cut the cord to a specific person. Many times if someone is on the outs with your parents or siblings they will do this so that they are no longer attached to them and they can start the healing process of letting that relationship go. If a friendship has died and withered away you can cut that spiritual cord there also.
It is always harder to do when it is a relationships that has fallen to the wayside. There is more attached than a friendship, you have invested more of yourself into this one relationship than in any other relationship you have had. By having a intimate relationship with someone you are in actuality giving them your essence, your body becomes accustom to theirs, your aura will blend with theirs, your senses will become one with their senses. On many occasions during the past several years, if I did not have physical contact with "the man" I started to get a little loopy. It was as if my body needed to be reminded of who he was and it wanted to reconnect.
So one of the important things to do when you decide to separate is cut all the cords that are connecting you to him. If you leave the cords connected you are always with that person and they are able to connect with you on other dimensions. So say you are moving on with your life and doing really well, you have not cried over your lost love, you are no longer thinking about them a hundred times a day and you are finally able to talk to other guys without thinking they are out to hurt you. Then WHAM!!! out of the blue you have a vivid dream where you are reconnected with him and now you are spending the day thinking about him, asking yourself "Should I call him", checking to see if you received any emails from him. You are right back to where you were at the beginning.
But wait; how did this happen? You were doing so good and you were happy. It happened because you did not break the connection with him. And while he just spent the day walking down memory lane and sending a ton of energy out it went straight to you during a vulnerable time while you were sleeping.
Think of the connections or cords as a string that is attaching your body to his. The energy either of you emits builds up and travels along this string and hits you right where you don't need it. If you had a really strong relationship that lasted a few years there are going to be several connections attached and each one will need to be cut.
So now that I have told you about these connections you are anxious to know how to cut them. It is actually pretty easy and you can do it alone or with the help of a therapist or energy worker. But before you do this you need to be 100% sure that you are ready to cut the connection, because you don't want to cut it and then reconnect it and have to start all over again done the road.
- The first and most important thing to do is protect yourself. I'm not talking about protecting yourself from intruders or muggers. I am talking about protecting yourself from negative energy. So you will want to put yourself into your protective bubble. If you don't know how to do this it is very easy. Sit quietly and take some deep breaths, visualize yourself sitting or laying whichever is easier for you, now visualize a great big bubble of light coming over you and settling around you. See yourself inside the bubble, you are comfortable and cozy and nothing from the outside can get to you in your bubble. I like to make my bubble out of white light, but sometimes I need a bit of color or extra care, so I use pink as a comfort color and blue as a vibrate energy color.
- Now that you are safe and comfy in your bubble visualize the person you are cutting the cord with. Think of a time when you were comfortable with them, not a time when you were ecstatically happy (ie: your wedding) or when you were livid (ie: your breakup) but just a normal everyday time. See them standing there in front of you, they are not in any way threatening to you nor do they know what you are doing. You are not in anyway going to hurt them or cause them discomfort .
- While you are looking at them focus on the strings of energy that are coming off of you and going to him and vice versa see what energy he is giving to you. These are the cords you are going to cut. Don't be surprise if there are a lot of them, the more time you spend with someone the more you attach yourself to them.
- Now, as they are standing there tell them that you appreciate everything they have brought into your life, you appreciate them for the love they showed you in the past and the happiness they gave you. But, now it is time for you to reclaim all that you have given to to them.
- Now visualize yourself taking a big pair of scissors and cutting the cords, start with the closest ones and just keep cutting. Think of it as pruning a rose bush, the more you cut back the healthier you will be in the future.
- Once all of the cords are cut, you will be amazed at the energy level you have. This is because you have just taken all your energy back.
- Now that you are finished, thank him for joining you and tell him he is free to go on his own way in life and that you wish him all the best in light and love.
You are done, you just did a major step in reclaiming your life. So what happens next, well the person may feel a bit out of sorts but that is okay, they don't know what you did. They just know that for some reason they have either more or less energy. Depending on if they were feeding off your energy level. They may not have the need to call you as often as before and that is okay too because you will no longer need them to call you. You have set yourself free and you are free to live life to the fullest.